I met Andrew in 2013 when we both worked at Nike. Somehow two kids from Northern California ended up 500+ miles away in a suburb of Boise, Idaho working a minimum wage retail job. From the moment we met, there was an undeniable chemistry, of course we both denied but no one was buying it. In 2014, we made our way back to Sacramento, for different personal reasons, and by the closure of the year, we had found ourselves with a new title of “boyfriend” and “girlfriend”. Over the course of the last 5 years, I’ve learned a lot about; love, relationships, Andrew, and myself. The last 5 years have brought me a lot of tears, laughs, lessons, and memories. All of which, I could talk about for hours. But I’ve decided to spare you the time and summarize the last 5 years with 5 things I’ve learned about love.
Love is fun
I don’t know about you but my partner is my very best friend. We laugh until our bellies hurt and we can’t feel our cheeks. Our days are filled with play fights and conversations in baby voices we wouldn’t dare let our friends hear. Every day is one I like forward to tackling with them by my side. When you’re in love, even the bad days don’t seem so bad because there is so much joy in your life with the person you love!
Love is understanding
If you ask anyone, they would say with confidence, I’m a very stubborn kind of gal. Love has taught me that that mentality doesn’t always work out. You very likely won’t fall in love with someone EXACTLY like you and that’s a good thing, I promise! However, there will be times you don’t agree. It can be hard to place yourself in the other person’s shoes and trying to see things from their experiences and views where you may be on the complete opposite end of the spectrum. Being in love has broken that hard stubborn wall down (for the most part, we all have our days, okay?) and made me realize we all can learn a little (and by little, I mean a lot) by being a little more understanding.
Love is unexplainable
I’ve had so many ask my questions about my decisions in my relationship or about how we do things and sometimes I just have no answer and I’ve found, that’s okay. What works, works. What you feel, is what you feel. Sometimes that’s all there is to it and you have to go with your gut. Sometimes you think with your heart and not your head and that’s fine. Because it’s pure and real. Sure, you may get hurt or it may cause some bumps in the road, but in the end, when all is said and done, real love truly conquers all. And no one needs more explanation than that.
Love is commitment
You’ve heard it all. Love is hard, it’s work, it’s giving things up, etc. And they ain’t wrong. But those things have to come from a foundation of commitment. A true promise that you both are in it for the long haul. Because if you’re just doing it, to do it, what’s the point? True love knows no time limits, it’s a forever kind of deal. And I’ve also learned, even forever isn’t long enough when you’re in love.
Love is private
This one is my most important and hardest lesson I’ve learned. In today’s world, everything is ran by social media. You could have not spoken a single word; typed or verbal to someone in years (or even ever), yet know where they work/live, how many kids they have, and what they ate for breakfast – all thanks to social media. And while it’s so great to have that connection platform, it can also be really destructive for a person. Including in your relationship. I’ll be honest, I use to be addictive to social media. Selfies on selfies, constant posting, the whole nine yards. My relationship was very public. And it put a lot of unneeded, unwarranted pressure for my relationship to be i.e. “look” a certain way. When I felt that wasn’t the case, I would go to social media as an outlet for sad Pinterest quote posts disguised as subtweets, often leading to petty arguments over the silliest of things. Plus, it just simply allowed other people a front row seat into my relationship which can frequently be followed with a certain entitlement for outside opinions. These past few months to a year, I really have taken my relationship and kept it super private and offline. And it has made such a huge difference in the overall health between us. In fact, a lot of you might even be confused that I’m writing an anniversary post. Well, surprise, we’re still here!
Love is such a special and complex idea, emotion, and connection. I’m constantly learning and growing but it’s a beautiful thing to be able to journey along someone I couldn’t imagine living without. A lot of what I said may be cheesy but I can tell you, it’s all true. While I don’t claim to be some love or relationship expert, I certainly know that I’ve been blessed to every moment I have and hopefully it resonates or helps someone reading this.
What’s something you’ve learned about love?
We’ve come a long way from flirting in between the aisles of the footwear department. Life with you is an adventure that I excites me and is never gets old.
Happy Anniversary, Honey, here’s to 5 more years, and 5 more after that.
I love you! ♥
Cheers to learning + loving,
Beauty and the Ballpark